This May, in celebration of Mother's Day, Creative Chat Cafe celebrates and shares stories and journeys of successful women and mom entrepreneurs. In this episode, we feature a woman in business who has thrived through change and self reinvention. Zef and Sondra host Fiona Bain, a Certified Professional Life Coach and a retired Navy Commander.
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Table of Contents (click on the minute timeline for the specific content):
00:51 - Greetings
02:20 - Kristin Hill, a resourceful Etsy mompreneur.
04:21 - Getting started with an e-commerce business
06:22 - Tips on how to manage an e-commerce business for mompreneurs.
08:54 - The reality of being a mompreneur.
10:42 - The importance of outsourcing less important tasks.
12:43 - Why you should learn to delegate better.
14:54 - Get energized about your goals and setting priorities.
19:29 - Recap of what's in this episode of Creative Chat Cafe.
20:06 - Tips on how to get started on Etsy.
29:11 - Contact, connect, and let's get social!
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FIONA: Absolutely. For some it is looking where you want to go. As your coach I am there as support and to help you realize your goals. Also, I tell everyone if you just stand in a power pose for a few minutes, you feel stronger and more secure. There is a great TED Talk out there by Amy Cuddy that helps explain some advice I give people. In the talk she explains how power posing for just two minutes can raise your testosterone and lower your Cortisol. She then explains how doing this prior to an interview really gets the best you to come forward in the interview.
SONDRA: I always like to think of us as animals. I mean, we are. We are all part of the animal kingdom. Posturing is so important in all that you do. Not only to convince others that you are powerful, but to convince yourself. The experts even tell you that if you run into a bear in the woods try to make yourself as big as you can to try to scare him away.
ZEF: Exactly. This can help you with self-esteem too, anytime, not just when you are doing an interview. Anytime you need a boost to your mood or if you are feeling down, you can do a power pose for a few minutes and it really helps you feel better.
SONDRA: Oh yeah, and that is just like Yoga. There are many empowering Yoga poses like Warrior One and Warrior Two. You are standing there holding that pose and you can feel your strength all over your body.
FIONA: I am a big fan of Yoga too. You know they have a whole Yoga program for Veterans to encourage them to join. They had to change the wording a little, because for you and "I surrender” means one thing, but to but to them it is a completely different thing.
SONDRA: Right, I can imagine that Yoga can be good for Veterans. Like meditation, it helps you to be able to relax and focus.
FIONA: I stumbled upon some wonderful new programs where these organizations are rescuing dogs and training them to help Veterans with Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD). I can’t even watch the videos without crying. I mean, these dogs are being rescued from Euthanasia and then they are saving these Veterans.
ZEF: Sondra, when you hear “small changes reap big benefits” what are some of your thoughts or suggestion to our military men and women who are looking to achieve this in their life? Maybe you can share some of your personal experience working with your clients who enjoy small changes that lead to big benefits?
SONDRA: I offer pragmatic help. Like, super part time personal assistance. I don’t think I have any clients who are Veterans. But one of the things I have heard is that just by holding up my end of the bargain it helps to keep them accountable to holding up their own end of the bargain. They are really grateful. I work mostly with entrepreneurs right now. But one customer I had before that I had a long time ago who is a recovering alcoholic, and I realized that just doing the basic rudimentary tasks of everyday life become really challenging when you are an addict. So, I think that this is similar to when you are a Veteran coming back to civilian life. Just doing the little things that we take for granted can be a monumental task for them.
ZEF: What are your tips for individuals who have served in the military that can help empower them to build a successful business and life post the military life?
FIONA: I always recommend that people get a really good idea as to what they want their future to look like....ergo the Vision Board workshops. I think too many of us sort of stumble along, doing things because our parents did, or a teacher thought it would be a good idea, etc. Once you have an idea as to where you would like to go, you set your SMART goals, and start taking action....that leads to motivation. The more we know about where we want to go the easier it is for us to get there. Also, ask for help. There are so many agencies out there that will offer support to you. SBA, DOL, friends, family, specialists. There will always be someone who can help you.
SONDRA: Zef, you’re big on empowerment too and if there’s one thing that you can share from your years of being in business, what one experience that you can share that can help empower our veterans to achieve their success?
ZEF: This is just a universal answer, whether you are a Veteran or not. The most important thing is to be around people who make us feel good.
#1 - Associate with people who will continue to lift you up!
· Going through change and transitioning into a different life - i.e. life post the military can be very challenging. This is for everyone, not just Veterans, but anyone who is experiencing a change in their life. Because on hard days, you will need to Strike a Pose! Right?
· Often, the transition is not to be experienced alone - therefore, having positive people around you - in your space and in your daily routines can help you move through the transition faster and get better results.
#2 - Network with people who are great connectors and can be a resource outlet for you.
· Especially in business, transitioning from the military life to and entrepreneurial lifestyle is extremely challenging!
· Most of the time, getting familiar with new relationships can take time so, I say go out and build relationships with people who are connectors and movers and shakers - especially if you want to achieve fast growth.
FIONA: Just to add onto that, I want to tell you about another great Ted Talk. His name is Shawn Achor, and he is all about happiness. And that is what I would like to see, all of our Veterans to just have fun. Not only will you Laugh Out Loud many times during the video, but he also has some great references. He talks about meditation too.
ZEF: Hey Sondra, that reminds me, you are looking for happy people aren’t you?
SONDRA: Exactly. You know whenever you have a “To do” it just settles itself in the back of your mind and sticks there all day until about 11:00 at night when you are about to fall asleep. You feel guilty that you didn’t do it.
ZEF: So Fiona, as a retired Navy Commander, how do you remember and honor our Veterans? Do you do anything specific?
FIONA: I saw the Veterans parade and it was interesting to see all of those that came before me. And I am home schooling my daughter, who is 11, and this holiday gave me a great opportunity to explain more to her about what is going on. The military, what they do, and how and why we should remember them.
ZEF: That sounds awesome! It is great to be able to pass on traditions to your children. And it's that time again. Time to say goodbye. We will see you next week. Same time - same place.
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