Powerful Words that Transform Lives - What Are You Really Saying?

Discussions Include:

• Using the right words to improve relationships
• How powerful language can help in your career
• How to better handle bad situations by using positive words
• How to take control of "habitual vocabulary" to change the quality of our lives
• Principles of communication
• Inspiration: How to Win Friends and Influence People

The Hangout:

The Conversation:

ZEF: Do you believe that using the right words can improve relationships? If so, why?

TINA: Yes, using the right words connects you with people, when you use the right words, you are building relationships with them, which can be long lasting. People will trust you and continue to have a relationship with you. They will feel empowered.

ZEF: How can the use of powerful language help me in my career?

RO-ZANNE: Powerful language helps us enhance our self-confidence in the face of challenges and keeps us grounded. It also helps us create a good positive impression while attracting more opportunities. First impressions are made in the first three seconds, sometimes even before we meet the other person. For example, a client on the high way is worried about being late and who is rude to a decision maker is a bad first impression. 

It's not so much about what happens to us, but what we tell ourselves after something has happened to us that determines our state of mind. People like to do business with people they like and who exude confidence and who are positive. Many of our clients have gotten promoted by "faking it 'til they make it," all starting with positive self-talk. We have about 50,000 thoughts a day, most of which are automatic.

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TINA KADISH
www.LifeIsIdeal.com

"Through taking a Passion Test, Tina discovered that she was passionate about helping others achieve clarity in their lives. She is a self-empowerment facilitator who inspires others to become their best self and achieve financial freedom."

RO-ZANNE HO


"Ro-Zanne experienced her first international experience when she left her home in Malaysia to study abroad at the age of 12. From there, she went on to live in Singapore for six years, then relocated to the United States for advance education and to launh her career. At the office, Ro-Zanne translates her passion for traveling into a love of meeting diverse people, learning about their challenges, and connecting their business needs to solutions."

Results:

ZEF'S TOP THREE PRINCIPLES IN COMMUNICATING WITH PEOPLE:

1. Know to whom you are talking - different people process communications differently. People remember - 10% of what they read; 20% of what they hear; 30% of what they see; 40% of what they hear and see. My example of a first meeting encounter - sometimes it is not always easy to gauge a person's personality especially if you are meeting for the first time. I have been fortunate because I have studied the DISC Personality Traits developed by Dr. Robert Rohm. In the beginning, I had no clue that peoples' personalities play a major role in how each and everyone of us communicate but I later learned that they had everything to do with how we present ourselves, how we talk, and how we think. If you can't get a gauge, ask questions to get a "feel" of who they are.

2.    Be a good listener! - If everyone talks, who listens? It is a very important communication skill that many of        us tend to overlook. I have personally met people who lead other people who just don't listen very well! It is all          about them. How can one experience growth if he/she does not listen very well?


3.    THINK before you speak - so that you can choose the right words for your audience! I had learned the hard            way, many years ago. When I was younger, my tongue moved faster than my brain! I made many mistakes -              most often blurbing something that I would regret later! It took practice to learn that what I was saying had a        huge impact on how I was perceived and it also impacted my reactions! For example, try cursing and                    measure your blood pressure when you do it! You will find that your body even reacts to it. So, can you imagine          what the person or people to whom you say it feel? Just as stressed!

TINA'S TIPS ON HOW TO GET A BETTER HANDLE ON A BAD SITUATION BY USING POSITIVE WORDS:

• My tip is to make people feel important - you want to understand their desires and what motives them. Whenever I communicate with people, my goal is to make the other person feel better and also appreciated.
  
• You don't want to be confrontational - I have had situations where I do all the talking and don't try to understand the other person's point of view. This causes the connection between us to get lost.
• You want to always think "it's not about me, but rather, it's about them."

RO-ZANNE'S TIPS ON HOW CHANGE THE QUALITY OF OUR LIVES BY TAKING CONTROL OF "HABITUAL VOCABULARY":

• First thing in the morning when we wake up, ask ourselves "for what are we grateful?" and focus on the vision/visual of what we want. Our minds think in pictures.
• Louise Hay, who wrote You Can Heal Our Lives, is a big proponent of mirror work - telling ourselves we love ourselves every morning. It is more than positive thinking or affirmation. Our subconscious mind can process 40 million nerve impulses per second. That makes the subconscious mind's processor 1 million times more powerful than the conscious minds'! Power of faith in moving mountains.

• I wake up at 5:45 every morning to chant. Buddhist SGI manifested a lot of things in my life. For example, I was recently at a conference and needed to speak with three people. I approached one of them and the other two were always making their way towards that first person.

Inspiration:

ZEF: Ro-Zanne, as a Dale Carnegie trainer, I am sure that you have read his book, How to Win Friends and Influence People. Which part of the book do you feel that speaks out to what we are talking about today? Why and how can we benefit from this?

RO-ZANNE: One principle is 'arouse in others an eager want.' This ties in to the use of the words; for example, a manufacturing firm may have a challenging morning and evening shift people do better; more with less. Also the doctor who 'reprimanded' the cleaner by giving her a fine reputation to live up to - all in the use of words.

TINA: I have read the book several times and always refer to it. I think the biggest value for me is that you want to smile when you meet someone, even if you are having a bad day. When you smile at the other person, they will usually reciprocate. You want to be authentic, also; in other words, not a fake smile.

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